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Getting over a break-up or a disappointment is never easy to overcome, especially if it's something you wanted or expected. It takes me awhile to process and understand why certain things or situations happen. While I'm in processing mode I tend to ask a lot of questions; Was it something I did?; Could this have been prevented?; and the ultimate Why?
Lately situations in my life have been a constant ball of disappointment. Dealing with feelings of rejection from personal relationships; financial woes; to the stresses of work and being a single parent. At the moment, the hand I've been dealt seems to be a pretty difficult. As I continue to get hit with these things I started to think how do I overcome the stresses of life and push through what I've been dealt. I understand life can be freaking hard at times but I've learned it's how you handle those tough times that makes you stronger.
Here are a 3 things that has helped me navigate my way out of "Disappointment-ville:"
#1 Acceptance: Accepting the outcome of my actions. Accepting decisions I've made is hard for me, especially if was a bad choice. Like I mentioned earlier I analyze everything. When I'm forced with a situation that is a bit difficult, I seek advice from friends and family. Once I've gotten the feedback I need I make the executive decision. Instead of panicking I choose to look at the outcome whether it's good or bad as a positive. How you say? Let me give u an example...Two years ago on Memorial Day weekend my car was hit by what I assume was a drunk driver. I was beyond pissed!! Three months prior I had just paid my last car note, anybody who has a car and pays a note knows how it feels to pay a car off..it's the best feeling ever! So with my car in a critical state I had a choice to make get it fixed or get a more reliable car. I do a lot of driving so I chose to get another car which meant another car note. I had accepted that my last car had served its purpose. I mean I rode it to the wheels fell off! Lol It was in bad need of work and I had almost 200,000 miles lol, it was time. The situation was beyond suckie because I had plans to free up some financial debts but I had to accept the issue and move forward. Accepting things that are beyond your control is hard and takes time to do but can be done.
# 2 The Power of Choice: Everyday we all are given a choice. We get to chose through a variety of things daily...Should I join that gym membership? Do I need that expensive pair of shoes? Should I go to work today? We have the opportunity to be negative or positive. Choosing how we handle disappointment can carry a lot of power. I didn't realize it until I had gotten rejected from a job I really wanted. I was hitting the job search hard and landing interviews, but I continued to fall short. After the fourth rejection I had had enough. I had decided that I was going to throw in the towel until I realized that I had a choice. I could've either stay in my bummed out feelings or think of better ways to interview. I had chose to change my frame of thinking and continued applying. After a few more interviews I landed a job that I wanted.
# 3 A "Lit" Ass Play list: Last but not least...this is my ultimate fave! Music gives me life! Music soothes me when I want to take a step away from the world. I strongly feel that good music can evoke a positive feeling. Every time I'm feeling disappointed or upset I go to Apple Music and play Bran's trap playlist and zone out.
Often times I don't have an answer to the What? When? and Why? to every situation. However, I have determine through constant conversations with friends and family to not let disappointment consume me. I refuse to let life stress me out. Some days are truly a struggle but these tips has helped me keep things in perspective. I'd like to hear from you guys. What are some other tips you guys use to over come disappointment. Share in the comments!
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